Good Intentions

There are many times in life when we act from our good intentions, but who does it serve.  Sometimes we see someone that is having a challenge in some area of their life and so we look for ways to help them.  Good intentions.  Occasionally we will notice something in our community that we think should be fixed and we go about making the necessary changes.  Good intentions.  Sometimes it is a family member or maybe it is friend or work associate, we look at their life or their work and we can see areas that would be better served if they simply made a few changes.  Good intentions.

We see these things or people that need fixing and from our generosity we go about telling or showing them what to do.  Or in some cases we may simply change things on our own.  I know from my own experience that I mean well when I do this.  There is no intended malice in doing this it is merely good intentions.  So, who is served by these good intentions?  Have you ever really examined your good intentions to see who you are really serving?

Have you ever been surprised when you do this good thing or offer this good advice and suddenly you have lost a friend?  Have you ever had someone get quite angry with you when you offer your sage advice?  Why is this, do you think?

Imagine for a moment that you are going about your life, and you feel it is going quite well, and all of a sudden a couple of your friends start planning ways they could improve you.  Maybe they haven't spoken to you about your failings as yet and they are going ahead with a plan to really improve you and your quality of life.  How might this feel to you when you find out?  Would you welcome it as a loving gesture on their part?  Would you resent their presumptions?

Something to think about.  Never assume you know what is best for someone else and you will probably have many friends and a happy life.  Good intentions, best to use with caution and clear communication techniques.
Love and Blessings,
Barbara